I used to love the idea of “colorblindness,” imagining everyone equal and not letting race get in the way. Unfortunately, it turns out that race is in the way and pretending it isn’t is HUGELY offensive to people of color who understand firsthand how differently lives play out along racial lines. Trying to be nice and kind to everyone is a great start, but ignoring race actually maintains the very cycle of silence, ignorance, and denial that needs to be broken for racism to be dismantled. It’s a classic case of good intentions backfiring.
Check out these two links to better understand this critical concept.