By Norma Johnson
See YouTube video of Norma Reading poem.
A poem for my white friends:
I Didn’t Tell You
I didn’t tell you about my real life
The one that haunts me most days
It comes in moments at a time
Triggered by a look,
a sensing of superiority,
of blatant ignorance,
of good meaning intention
dripping crap down my face.
I didn’t tell you about the look they gave me when I opened my door and they saw black me standing there, their mouths agape, their thoughts running loudly thru my head.
I didn’t tell you about being followed thru the store and how I obediently kept my hands and my bag in plain site.
I didn’t tell you how quickly they look away when I catch them staring at me in the restaurant and standing in the supermarket line.
I didn’t tell you how the clerk pretended the white woman had been standing at the counter before I had and waited on her first.
I didn’t tell you how I have to take a really deep long breath every time before I walk into a room full of white people.
I didn’t tell you that in the meeting, the classroom and the workshop, when the subject of diversity comes up, they all look at me as if I am the spokesperson for the whole nation of people of color.
I didn’t tell you that when diversity isn’t mentioned and needs to be, I’m too often the one who has to point it out.
I didn’t tell you how many times white people say to me in one way or another, “You’re different,” because they felt comfortable with me and that didn’t fit their mold of what they figured a black person was like.
I didn’t tell you how disappointed that white man was when, after eagerly questioning me, found out that I was not the exotic Nubian he had fantasized, but just another negro girl from New Jersey.
I didn’t tell you about the white woman, a stranger who chose out of all the white people around us, to sit next to me and proceed to tell me all about her favorite black performers and her black friends and how this country needs to take integration to the next level so I could see how her life is an example of that.
I didn’t tell you about the anger I stuffed down when that dreadlocked young white boy gave me a high five and called me “sistah.”
I didn’t tell you about the white woman I passed at twilight in the park, who tensed her body, tightened her grip on her purse and walked a large curved detour past me. I didn’t tell you that my stomach clenches when I see a police car because it means I may not be safe.
I didn’t tell you that your world is not mine and that we are virtual worlds apart.
I didn’t tell you that while you can somehow think of yourself as multi-ethnically expansive because you have a Black friend, I meanwhile just still… stay… black.
I didn’t tell you that while you can walk boldly into any place you choose, I always have to consider where I am, who I’m with and how I’m going to affect people.
I didn’t tell you how your liberalism chokes me sometimes as you sit in judgment of someone you don’t even know.
I didn’t tell you that being a good person and being clueless can come in the same package.
I didn’t tell you about the comments you made that would take a lifetime of explaining how you’ve bought into the system that keeps us ALL,… in…our…place.
I didn’t tell you about my day because I had been taught not to
And you have been taught not to even consider it.
I didn’t tell you about my day because then I would have to live it all over again…
and I have to save that for tomorrow.
By Norma Johnson, Boulder, Colorado, Copyright June 2008
All In Spirit, www.allinspirit.com (Website opens late May, 2014)
Contact Norma: firstname.lastname@example.org